Full Time Job
Or entrance into full adulthood.
ok so I am no longer a teenager and so I guess i need a full time job. But i really didnt want one….it is really easy to just get comfy doing nothing. However now i want one for the following reasons…
1. To get away from my mother
2. To earn more money….to get away from my mother
3. To be independent…..so i can finally tell off my mother
4 To get my own place….so i have a place to go as a result of telling off my mother….if i am still alive.
You see the pattern
In Defence of a Friend
Hey Mids,
I believe we have already gone over the importance of freinds for the “average” mid yes? To recap they are loved…important…and we have a tendency to hang to them for dear life. So you can imagine my displeasure with the fact that my mother (yes mother complex) is trying to separate me and my friend. Now yes in her head (demented though it be) she has good reasons….but i do not agree….in fact i strongly disagree so much so that i am posting about it.
You see it is not the fact that she is trying to remove my friend….I have confidence in myself and my freind to withstand her attempts. It is the fact that she udertakes this with a biased and uninformed opinion of my freind. She never remembers my friends or takes a real interest in them so how dare she make such an opinion and then try to force that opinion on me and dictate to me? Well she dares and i resent it so the battle lines have been drawn. Wich me luck my fellow Mids.
Bye
Sib Bonding Youngest
So my younger sib and I have been bonding recently. Not so painful an experience as I had thought it would be. We have our moments but for the most part we can connect on our few common interest without ragging on our older sib. I am just as amazed as you guys! In truth she still gets on my nerves for her lack of “real world knowledge” I’ll call it. She has two people as the youngest that have gone before her in life so you would think she would know better, but no. Makes me mad but then what can we ever do right?For the most part she is not soooo much of the brat she used to be so its not so bad.
Bye
DAMN IT!
I DONT NEED TO BE FIXED JUST LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE
to the extreme
Hey Mids,
I am pretty sure that I have addressed the subject of correction with you before. Well now I would like to warn my fellow Mids of an extreme I have recognized in myself for awhile now. This is the danger of taking the correction to such an extreme in your life that you end up being seen in the negative anyway. This comes as a combination of hating correction, desparatley trying to pleaee in order to gain attention, and the intense phobia of embarrasment that I admit follows me around. Example: my mother always deamed my behavior as “inappropriate” in some way shape or fashion and to be fair I had very poor impulse control (ADHD). I took that criticism to such an extreme however that I cannot stand to witness anyone’s embarrasding behavior. Not in movies or in books and it is downright painful in real life. It brings back memories of every stupid thing I have done that I have been condemned for….and the feelings come rushing back. I avoid this! The problem is that since I show such a dislike for people who I believe are acting “inappropriately” I am now being seen as callous and critical and unhumorous. Unfair in my opinion but I am this way for the reasons mentioned above.
So just a warning my fellow Mids, there is a point where we can go too far.
bye
Just my luck
Hand me downs
This is going to sound really dumb, but the thing that I hated alot was the handme downs I would get from my older sister but my little sister got new things. There were various reasons why she did, like she was shorter or thinner, and eventually I got taller and thinner than my older sib, but it was so irritating that I couldnt do the big sister thing and pass my clothes down to my little sister. Just another reminder to me that I was not the oldest. And the fact that she got new things and I didnt and my older sister got new things too.
Unfair
The world having a bad day : people cheer them up. Me having a bad day : I’m just being moody. - lets think about this. I am unhappy. Unhappy is an emotion. Emotions are moods……YES I AM MOODY!
Makings of a Friend
Hey Mids,
While I know I have gotten a little off topic recently I cannot apologize for it. I have many interest. Anyway, I would like to take the time to address the concept of friendship for the middle kid. Going back to my previous disclaimer I will reiterate the fact that not all middle kids act the same and that the middle kid never fits into any specific mold. Some middle kids never even feel the affects of MCS…happy you….so if this is not you…ignore it.
Group One: Attached
This group of middle kids finds fullfilment in their friends because they do not feel it at home. They are dependent in some ways on their friends because their friends are able to keep them feeling like they belong somewhere and that someone understands them even if it is just a little bit. They can also be a little possessive and protective of these friendships. This is handled in three different ways.
A. The middle kid has several groups that are kept separate so that they can focus on each group individually and nuture them as they need it. They hate being treated the same as everyone else so they refuse to treat others that way.B. to ensure that if one group fades that they have another group.C. To allow the Middle kid to be and act differently with each group without the other group being aware and asking questions or thinking about them differently. The middle kid is sensitive to what people think of them so they will almost never truly be thier entire self with anyone.
It all boils down to security. A middle kid is very self concious about how people perseeve them in part because their personality and character is made up around the blank space that they reside in within thier families. So if they can have wiggle room, then they are satisfied. There is more that could be said however that would just be ridiculously long.
Group Two: Distant: This group of mids is ready to let go of a friendship without so much as a second glance. THis is a matter of security as well. The middle kid has a hard time connecting with people especially family and so in order to keep from being hurt they keep a bubble of space and disconnect to protect them from getting too invovled. They have not found a fullfilling connection in their own families and they become okay with that feeling. It becomes comfortable, managable, and they are loath and a little lazy when it comes to working on or building lasting relationships so that they will not be hurt. Not saying this is healthy, not saying it is not…it just is.
The third group falls in bewteen the two. They do not attach to people easily but when they do they hold on to them. They become a little possessive and they are loath to lose them. If they are never to see that friend again then they prefere to never see them again that way the friendship can remain unblemished in their memory. That is how I felt with my best friend from when I was younger, when I met up with her again nearly ten years later we had nothing left in common and so I could not hold onto the idea of us being friends anymore.
So there it is. The Middle child and friendships from my observation. There is more to be said but again that would be long and just FYI you could find a military brat that falls into the same pattern as this.
Bye
Once upon a time
Hey Mids,
so there is a show on ABC called once upon a time and I need people to speculate with me. What is Mr. Golds angle.
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